Reflection 3 on AT HOME WITH MAMMA

 

In this article, the author explains the main reasons of mammonis stay with family during adulthood supporting by interview results. In other words, findings of the Italian National Statistics Institute on mama boy’s perspectives about stay at home are debated. Interestingly, the research revealed two significant reasons of it as economical, psychological factors and cultural roots. I totally support the assumptions of the research however; I think that the psychological matters are the manipulating factor of staying at home until late 40^th.  Moreover, these reasons are either obsessive affection as mentioned in the article or lack of confidence or it may be other reasons relying on Froid’s theory. For example, mother excessively loving their boys may consistently want to look after their sons and express their love, which is not of course refused by their sons. In addition, Lidia Eggman, 32, who works for an export consortium in the northern town of Cuneo, states that the Italian mother is part of the problem. This problem partially arises the second one, which is lack of confidence. To illustrate, mothers who are eager to do the job for their sons and do not allowing them to decide problems independently, unconsciously push their children to feel useless and so prevent them to perform their own ideas and attitudes.  Also psychological traumas such as child abuse and violence at home are the main causes of lack of confidence and so stay at home in late 40^th. Overall, the domains of mammonis stay with family in Italy that are economic issues, psychological factors and cultural roots, are also valid for the whole world.